Happy Valentine’s Day
I bet you didn’t know that there are 14 Saint Valentines. One of which whose feasts of is being celebrated every February 14 has nothing to do with the number 14 and that no one is really sure if the feast on that day is for the 14 saints of just for that Saint Valentine who was born on April 16 and buried on February 14.
I don’t dislike the 14th of February, in fact I’m one of those who are secretly wishing someone will give me a long stemmed rose on the day. It has nothing to do with what the day signifies, because I honestly don’t understand what it does signify.
So on that day, I got a message from an ex-boyfriend saying, “I know you don’t love me anymore, but I want you to be happy on Valentine’s day and that you’re on my mind all the time”. Well it is thoughtful but I can’t help but feel bad about it. See I have a problem with people who profess strict compliance? or love? for their faith (religious) and does the complete opposite. Case in point, I once dated a guy who’s not allowed to drink alcohol and have relationships with girls other than his wife. I never learned to believe him because if he’s lying to himself and his God, how can he be true to me? Right? Right.
How Difficult it is to Date Someone from a Different Country
1. Language
We all know how communication is a very vital part of any kind of relationship, having different languages, even though you both know a common language, let’s say English, doesn’t make things easy. Somebody broke up with her boyfriend a couple of days back saying, “I can’t see you anymore” to which the boyfriend thought she meant she just didn’t want to see him that night.
What’s worse is when they see a friend and they start talking to each other in their own language, it’s just plain rude. You’re left acting like you’re not trying to decipher what they’re talking about and hoping you won’t hear your name anywhere in their conversation.
2. Different views of love and marriage / Culture
It is true that people may be open to sex and open relationships but that does not necessarily equate them to be liberal when it comes to dating. Some who actually think they can fall in love at first sight, even if their religion tell them otherwise, they’ll still impose cliches on you. Some men just don’t understand that there can be girls who sleep with them just because they want to sleep with them and nothing else. And it isn’t fair to be expecting the girl to cook for you. Come on, get a cook to prepare your food.
3. Humor and Hobbies
Not everything you find laugh out loud funny will seem the same to them. And that sucks BIG TIME.
Are you currently dating someone who was born in a different country as you are? Share your thoughts.
Numbers
Everything can be rated now. All seems to have a number equivalent and I’m curious how did it all started?
How many times you should go out with somebody before taking things into another level? How young should the other person be? At what age you should marry? They all have some numerical value and I can’t help but think, do they really tell you something?
I know a lot of people who’ve been in the same relationship for 7 or more years and usually my first reaction is, “Wow…” because well, my longest serious relationship was five (5) months, serious and acknowledged (let’s not go into details for now). So it usually breaks the hopeless-romantic’s-heart in me when I hear people who’ve been together for almost a decade breaks up. If they can’t make it work, what about us humans?
