Numbers
Everything can be rated now. All seems to have a number equivalent and I’m curious how did it all started?
How many times you should go out with somebody before taking things into another level? How young should the other person be? At what age you should marry? They all have some numerical value and I can’t help but think, do they really tell you something?
I know a lot of people who’ve been in the same relationship for 7 or more years and usually my first reaction is, “Wow…” because well, my longest serious relationship was five (5) months, serious and acknowledged (let’s not go into details for now). So it usually breaks the hopeless-romantic’s-heart in me when I hear people who’ve been together for almost a decade breaks up. If they can’t make it work, what about us humans?
Journey Vs. Destination
I read this quote a while back and it got me thinking, is it really just about the journey and NOT about the destination? I’ve heard countless versions of this quote and to some extent i agree with what they stand for. But if you ask me, it’s missing a few points.
Since this quote talks how you will find joy/happiness in your life, I think it’s safe to say that the destination should have some weight as well. Can anyone be truly happy by just trying something and failing in the end? I had more than my fair share of failures and from what i remember, it did not feel great. No matter how hard I tried and no matter how much fun i had trying to achieve something, as long as I failed, it still felt bad. I still felt like shit. It still seemed that all my efforts were wasted and that I was better off to have not tried doing it in the first place. Sure, i learned a few new things while doing it, but was it really worth feeling this way? The same is not true when you reverse the situation. I’ve cheated on tests a few times, but it still felt great upon learning that i passed. It felt even better to know that you’ve achieved something without trying that hard. Sure, some would argue that I didn’t deserve to be happy. That may be true, but whose to say that what I felt wasn’t genuine happiness?
I guess what I’m trying to say is, find what makes you happy then do anything and everything possible to get it. Even if it means breaking a few rules along the way.
Relationship Status
I may have been single for quite a long time that I find it difficult to be in a committed relationship. But then again, if I’m with the right person, it shouldn’t be difficult right?
I find it quite interesting that the moment I changed my status on Facebook from Single to In A Relationship I got comments from friends and even people who aren’t really close to me about it. Seriously, I know I’m 26 years old, but people our age should be thinking about a lot of things like career, future plans and saving money and not worrying about getting into relationships which we are unsure of. In fact, it’s no. 3 in Relevant Magazine’s 11 Things to Know at 25(ish),
3. Don’t Rush Dating and Marriage
Now is also the time to get serious about relationships. And “serious” might mean walking away from a dating relationship that’s good but not great. Some of the most life-shaping decisions you’ll make during this time will be about walking away from good-enough, in search of can’t-live-without. One of the only truly devastating mistakes you can make in this season is staying with the wrong person even though you know he or she is the wrong person. It’s not fair to that person, and it’s not fair to you.
So I choose not to be pressured by questions like, “Why are you still single?” and “Who are you dating?” because I seriously don’t know the answer to question no. 1.
